Share your story

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’  Eleanor Roosevelt

People can experience distress as the result of difficult or discriminative interpersonal interactions in a range of ways and situations. This website focuses on people who may have experienced mobbing. While every individual’s story is different, and everyone copes differently with what has happened to them, being mobbed has a distinct set of characteristics. If you want to check whether mobbing is the appropriate name for your experience, see Kenneth Westhue’s Checklist of Mobbing Indicators at http://arts.uwaterloo.ca/~kwesthue/checklist.htm.

This is a place where victims of mobbing, or any one who has been affected by mobbing, can share their story if they would like to. I believe that anyone who has been through mobbing needs to be heard, and this is a place where you can do it. Some good advice about writing your story can be found at http://www.bmartin.cc/dissent/intro/story.html. It would be good to hear stories from any stage of the mobbing process.

There are a few points you need to consider first:

1. This is not a place to get therapy or psychological or legal help. Some of the mobbing websites, such as the Workplace Bullying Institute and Bad Apple Bullies, have suggestions for where to look for help. Anyone who feels overwhelmed or in desperate need of help should contact an appropriate help line and seek medical help as soon as possible.

2. This is not a place for vendettas, or for mobbers to continue mobbing. Comments will be moderated in an attempt to ensure that identifying details are removed, and that stories and comments are genuine. Please remember that blaming the victim for what has happened, suggesting it is their fault, is counterproductive and can cause further harm.

3. If you share your story, please indicate whether you would be happy for it to be edited and used as a permanent part of this website.

Thanks for listening.

5 thoughts on “Share your story

  1. Hi, I am so sorry to hear you are going through a difficult time. Facing these problems can be very hard, but there are things that have helped me and hopefully will help you too. Clinging to the knowledge that what happened was not my fault, but instead reflected a poor work and management culture plus the greedy agendas of certain individuals, has helped me not to take events as personally as I could have done. Also, realising that there really are a lot of good and decent people around, despite the few that are making our lives difficult, has helped give me a wider perspective and some hope. However, things have still been tough, and I hope for your sake that you are managing to find some support and to think beyond these difficult circumstances to a way forward into the future. Good luck. My thoughts are with you.

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